K Filip Sumi
Love is something everyone wants in life. It makes you feel special and good. It provides comfort and security. One of my friends told me that she is feeling bored as her roommate was getting bored as her roommate was getting married shortly. So, unconfidently, I tired to lift her spirits by saying she would be getting a new roommate. But she asserted that she would never be getting the same person to share a room and that she’s losing one of her friends. Her friend will be saying “I do”.
From the moment a girl says “I do”, she loses her maiden friends. The word ‘loses’ is used to mean that she gets less time to be wither friends. Naturally, family, in-laws comes first and there is lesser and lesser time for her friends. When the bride and the groom take pledge, she becomes his and he becomes hers. They vow to stand by each other in all times good and bad. She is bonded forever not to be separated till death-do-them-apart.
“I take thee to be my lawfully wedded husband/ wife, to have and to hold from this time forward for better, for better, for worse , for richer, for poorer , in sickness and in health , to love and to cherish , till death us part, and thereto I pledge thee my faith.”
“I do” is a sentence that separates a girl from her friends but at the same time, it bonds her to a man forever a sense of comfort and security. So maidens, before the time comes foe you to say those’ separating’ and ‘bonding’ words, do have time with your friends. Make merry, rope skipping can be fine with friends. But some are so much in hurry. When some girls fall in love, they begin to see the whole world in that person and think that there can be no man perfect than him. They rush to utter those words and many of them regret. When you choose, you are making one of the most important commitments in your life. Can you still love and get along with each other in spite of all the differences and problems and situations that you may be facing together? Marriages without love are reckless but marriage built on love is also not the end. You know the man has economic problems but you love each other so much so that you can’t live better and never be complete without each other. What do you do? One should set enough time to think. No one wants to be obsessed with wrong marriage. But what obsesses woman is their beauty. People mostly associate the word” beautiful” with woman and it has become something of an essentiality to women’s character and concerns. Physical appearance, complexions, a lovely pair of eyes, soft skin, silky hair, shiny nails, waistline and so on makes a women physically beautiful women has been identified with being caring about how one looks . It is not b that every women desire to be beautiful but they have been pulled into this arena by some sort of obligation. In contrast to woman it takes a man to be strong, competent or even understanding, to be called beautiful. A woman is not effectively seen as pretty without considerable curves, hips, pearly eyes and the like. In other words, women’s beauty is rated according to parts of their physical body. Women with a crooked nose won’t appear beautiful though other parts of her body may be attractive. But in men good looks is never seen in parts or fragments. It’s rather seen as a whole his statuesque. Men, however these days are becoming dandy.
Now, the point I want to drive here is which is more important for women their life,” I do” or “Beauty”? Some are so excited about marriage but we can’t deny the fact that almost every one of them is interested in looking beautiful. Then, since majority try to be beautiful, we may say that ‘beauty’ is more important of the two. But after some years we find that almost every one of them gets married. So the ‘ I do’ becomes more important now. But this marriage is not a station where women halt to strive to appear beautiful. Still many resume their journey to remain beautiful Alexander Pope is right till today when he said in “The Rape of the Lock” that woman’s vanity continues to live even after her death.
There’s nothing wrong with women wanting to be attractive, to remain beautiful. But why do women seem to think more about their looks than man do?
