Vishü Rita Krocha
I have the honor of having a best friend who is always enthusiastic about sharing any events of the day with much zeal that I fail to imagine anything ever goes wrong with his life. It was early this year we sat together, talking our lengthy talks when he started telling me about the guest lecture they were given that day. Hearing the way he re-echoed the words of their learned professor, I thought studying would be so damn interesting if it’s always done with a deep hunger and thirst for knowledge.
He certainly seemed to have enjoyed at length, the lecture that was given that day for I myself would have liked to be there listening if I were given an opportunity because the discourse was all based on society that is powerfully influencing our lifestyles in small and big measures. What I liked about the whole thing this friend of mine told me about is how this professor feels the need to change the conventional system of our society. Somehow it’s become too common for us to follow the norms of the past that when something new is introduced or a different lifestyle is led by someone, there is rubbish talk about it and we tend to inculcate the idea that the particular person concerned is certainly not doing the right thing.
“What’s wrong with a woman resolving to remain a spinster all her life?” If one wishes to remain so, the liberty should be given to her because there is nothing really wrong with it. But our society is so used to the conventional way of living that it would be considered inappropriate if a woman chooses not to marry all her life, unless that is one becomes a nun. People would start looking down on her. For our Naga Society, it’s like ‘she’ isn’t good enough to be any man’s wife which is why ‘she’ is still single.
You see some guy starts doing the household chores and there is endless talk about it. What is this guy doing? Is he crazy or something? He must have married a rotten girl! The mentality in us is still as narrow that it doesn’t have enough space to put in more goodness. What’s wrong with a man working in the kitchen or cleaning the house? Isn’t it his home as well? Without knowing the other side of the story, it’s very easy for us humans to jump into wrong conclusions very often. Sometimes it would be very nice to silently learn why a particular thing functions the way it does without judging it at all.
I’ve often wondered the practice of freedom in our land. We’re so much into flaunting it but never really free at heart. Sometimes we are so scared to be independent. We’re too bothered about what people would say. We don’t want to be talked about if what we are doing is something the society would look as though some horror has happened just because it hasn’t seen something of the kind in a long while. I see no wrong in introducing something new if it doesn’t harm anything in return for we learn and live with each other. We share ideas to grow and better our society. Of course, there are some real wrongs we should avoid doing but it doesn’t mean we should go on trusting the society to always tell us what to do for we may be deprived of following the road less traveled. Nothing really can be wrong with our society if we give freedom a chance. For a change let’s give it to the heart. We may then wonder less and less about what’s wrong with our society for it really lies in an individual to decide what happiness is all about. Always remember we all have a part in molding our society.
