A lot of the bumps and damages in the families are due to a lack of communication on both sides.
At lot of times, I feel my parents are maintaining too much control over me – somehow my parents cannot, will not, do not understand, you get the idea!
Thus, we asked couple of young teenagers to speak up if they are feeling that their parents unrealistic expectation’ are getting them down.
Here are honest thoughts from the children to their parents:
• Do us a favor- “don’t put a lot of pressure on us to be somebody.” Do you realize that you are putting across- “don’t let us down?”
• Let go of your dreams for our lives and get ready to participate in our dreams.
• I want my parents to know that upbringing is a huge factor!! Imprint healthy morals and values in us.
• ”I want my parents to be good models for me.”
• ”Less talk and more action.”
• ”Adaptability with the change time and situation.”
• You know what? It is not your job to make sure we don’t make any mistakes.
• ”Being open about relationships and not being too rigid.”
• I want my parents to believe in me and my dreams and encourage me to follow my dreams.”
• No comparison game puleez!
• Please treat us respectfully as we see ourselves - as an adult or watch the relationship crumble.
• parents should focus on helping kids learn to think and decide for themselves.
• They need to recognize that their children have their own souls, thoughts, feelings and space.
• Really listen to us and take an interest in us as adults.
• Be clear in your expectations on us and trust us to fulfill our promise.
• Encourage, support and give us a chance to go out and proof ourselves.
• Don’t push us, give us a space to grow, just guide us and let us experience the growth at the right time. • Please don’t say, “I was like…” when I was your age.
• Be interested in our world.
• Allow us to go for what we want in life.
Three cheers for those daring and honest teens for their input!
The axiom “A child’s first teachers are his parents” should challenge any parents who genuinely cares about how their children are being trained. It certainly does me.
Thozotolu
